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It’s understandable that you’re feeling drained and can’t bring yourself to do your work. It sounds like there are a lot of things in your life right now that are in transition, and you’re questioning everything, which is totally normal but also doesn’t stop it from being overwhelming.
So here’s a though experiment for you: What if you secretly already knew the answer, but your anxiety and overwhelm is just blocking you from tuning in? One of the premises that Kristen and I often operate on, particularly when we’re coaching someone 1-on-1, is that the client already knows a LOT more about what they want than they realize. So, when I was reading your post, when you started mentioning going into business with your husband and all of the ways to make that work, I started wondering if perhaps you *do* sort of know the answer, but it’s hard to discern from your current standpoint.
When you started mentioning going into business with him, it was almost as if the energy of your post changed. The tone became more hopeful, and it was clear that you have plenty of ideas about how to make this work in a healthy, profitable way. You’ve even thought about how to get your needs for connection met outside of him, since if you were to work and live with him 24/7 you’d definitely need other forms of human connection.
Here’s another thought experiment for you: Let’s imagine that you could make a choice, and no one would have to know about it. You could choose whatever you wanted, free of any outside judgment or influence, and there wouldn’t be any big, bad, negative consequences from whatever choice you make. What would you do?
Give this some thought, and I’d love to hear what you come up with! 🙂